Not Calm dot com

What I was trying to say about feminism, I think that Jen at Not Calm dot com did much better than I ever could. I think that different women feel very differently about feminism. That even women who have the same goals and beliefs in changes they would like to see effected in America disagree about the means by which those changes should occur. That we as women tend to feel that women who chose to live their lives differently are disrespecting our own values and these women upset us so much we cannot see past their lifestyle choices and find commonality.

Undermining a woman's self image is quite prevelent in our society. How many women do you know that are happy with themselves? We don't think we are good enough as mothers. We don't think we are pretty enough. We don't think that we are practical enough for politics or business. So we attack each other. Women in the work force tell the stay at home moms that they are boring loosers causing men to look down on women. Women who stay at home look at working women and say they are destroying the fabric of America by abandoning their children or by undermining the value of family.

I believe that there exists women in the majority who do not fall into either catagory, who are the women who have the most power. Women who understand the necessity for women to have equality in the work place and in politics and also understand the necessity of family.

We the boring unsensational women who can see both sides of the issue of what it means to be a woman have the ability to be heard by even the most extremist of feminists and traditionalists. Because we can if we try see their perspective. I can listen to my working childless friends and see their perspective. I can listen to my traditional stay at home friends and see their perspective. Because I can hear and speak either language I have more of an opportunity to reach common ground.

I believe that we are in need of better education and healthcare for the poor in America. I believe that these two issues are primarily women's issues. That if we, the women of America, could come together on these issues, we could effect change, make America better. Instead we are trowing stones and the issues fall to the wayside. Sorry I will get off my soap box.