This is most 500th post. In January I will have been blogging for three years. I enjoy blogging so much. It is my me time, sometimes the only me time I get. As I reflect back over the time I have spent blogging I think the most profound thing I have gained from this experience is the knowledge that I am a know it all and no one wants my advice. Believe it or not I was not aware of this fact pre-blog. While that is good to know, as you all know I still struggle with the telling people how to improve their life issue. My inner Dr. Phil is just aching to get out and tell you exactly how to fix your life. Not that my life is all that grand, I just have this urge...
Have you ever read a blog and felt, wow, that same exact thing happened to me? Of all the blogs in the world, I must have come here for a reason and it is surely a sign that I tell this person how to fix her life. I have learned that we all struggle with the same crap, it isn't a sign. I need to listen and learn instead of telling. Does anyone else struggle with being a know it all?
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This blog post is in no way reflective of how I feel about my lovely readers and their lovely advice. I appreciate and ask for your thoughts all the time. I just have a problem of knowing the difference between when someone is asking my opinion and when someone is venting. You certainly don't have that problem.
It's easy to have the answers to everyone else's messed up lives. I think the thing I've learned most from blogging is that I would be well served to put my money where my mouth is, if you know what I mean.
500 posts!
Here's to 500 more, and then some!
Being a back-seat driver is very easy. It's not until you're in the driver's seat itself that you can understand the full picture. However, I personally still greatly value any advice the back-seat driver wishes to give me. There are many, many times when some of that information is extremely helpful. The driver can choose to accept or reject what they hear; but I for one enjoy the input.
We all have expertise in our own areas, and I think it's wonderful to share that expertise with others who need it. I have no problem opening my mouth and giving people advice. They don't have to follow it; they can easily ignore me -- but at least I've tried to help.
I am very guilty of wanting to "fix things" for others. Even in the midst of my own messes at times. I can't count how many times I've deleted a long winded comment because I felt it was too authoritative. It's funny how we do that. I get a lot of advice these days on my own blog and I've learned to realize it is because people care.
I think I'm MrsGrumpy's fix-it sister. Our intentions are good. Sometimes I can give specific advice but mostly it's a lot of empathetic "listening." I do love the connections. May you have many more posts.
Jennifer: I know what you mean, I think sometimes the instinct to "help" someone else comes from not being able to fix that same problem in my own life. Thank you, very much.
Lorelei: That is why I love you so much, you are very easy going and wise.
mrsgrumpy: I am totally guilty of trying to fix your grief. I so wish there was something I could do to make it all go away. Is that a hero complex? I have deleted my fair share of long winded authoritative comments. I feel bad about the ones I hit publish before I came to my senses.
Shelia: I am working on learning to listen. Thank you, very much.
You've never struck me as a know-it-all!
Thank you Miss Sniz, perhaps I am learning to hide it.
500! that's a big number. Congratulations.
Any advice for us newbies? :)
Meno, you crack me up as always. My advice is: keep up the good work, you rock.
Wow! 500 posts. That is quite an accomplishment! My thought is that if people didn't want advice, they would just write their stuff in a journal.
When I first started blogging, I was completely afraid that I would come across as someone who knew it all! lol I am very opinionated so I am sure I come across that way sometimes. And I enjoy know-it-alls actually. Makes for interesting discussions. :)
You talkin' to me! My husband used to call me "the policewoman of the world". I was never afraid to voice my opinion or to set someone straight. It embarrassed him. So, I toned that down. (This also ties in with one of your earlier posts about giving yourself away) I still do it when he isn't with me, like on my blog or in a store. Through blogging I have come to learn that some bloggers don't want advice, some just want validation. And I am with you and Jennifer. It is called avoidance. It is a way of not having to deal with the same issues in yourself.
congratulations! hope you made it through the busy weekend.
i use my blog (and the comments section of other blogs) as an outlet for my bossy know-it-all-ness. can you tell? :-)
i never got that impression from you, so you must be coping exceptionally well.
I don't think it's always bad or a sign of being a know-it-all when we've had experience with something and we want to share it with others who are going through a similar problem. In many ways we're all fixers and it's can be seen as a sign of wanting to make life a bit easier for a fellow human when we give our advice.
Sometimes it's all really about how we deliver it.
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