Amazing Race

Jeff and I love to watch the TV show Amazing Race. We feel that on most of our adventures we have felt pretty similar to the contestants. We have been lost in foreign countries with very little money. We have tried our best to locate some place without the ability to speak the language or read a map. Been there done that. It is so fun to see many of the places we have been on the show. Like this time they started in Seattle and went to Beijing, been there done that. So fun. All of our traveling experience and the thought of a million dollars you would think we would be first in line to apply for the show, but no, I like being married a bit more than I like the thought of a million dollars.

A couple of months ago I was at one of those functions, now that Jeff is a Master Sergeant we are constantly going to functions. I was chatting with some ladies, some were Japanese some were American. The American ladies were asking the Japanese ladies how to curse in Japanese. We were all giggling to no end. The Japanese ladies were writing down for us American ladies how to say some choice words to our husbands in Japanese. As I asked for the words to be written on my napkin they all looked at me and said, you don’t fight with your husband. What? Of course I fight with my husband. I need to be able to cuss in Japanese as much as the next wife.

As I told Jeff the story I started to remember that a lot of people make this comment to me. I wonder what it is about us that gives the impression to people that we don’t fight? I think that for the most part it is Jeff, he is very nice. I think people think that there is no way anyone could ever be mad at him. I guess that makes me the ultimate Bitch, because I get mad at him all the time. Especially when we are traveling. Because he never listens. Never.

Seriously though. We have only been married going on six years, in November. I guess that makes us relatively newlyweds. However, I have noticed that in the first couple years we did fight a lot more. Lately, he still annoys me in the same ways for the same reasons, but I don’t take the time to get really mad. Too much effort. Been there done that. He is who he is and most days I am glad to be married to him, so when he refuses to listen, I just skip the part where I get mad and move on. He does the same. I am sure no one thinks I am so sweet that Jeff could never possibly get mad at me, but he used to get mad more often than he does now. Now he is still annoyed by the same things but doesn’t bother to get all hot and bothered by it all. I am not sure if this is due to the fact that our annoyances are petty or if it is due to the fact that we are too lazy to have a good fight? Fighting takes way too much energy.

Still I need some good Japanese cuss words to feel better too. They have been in my wallet for a couple of months and never been used. But, they are there and they are ready just in case. I wonder too what it is that those ladies who only know me via the occasional function see in our relationship which causes them to assume we never fight. I was the only one singled out and accused of never fighting with my husband. While they were right, how did they know?