For those of you keeping track today is Friday and slide day at swim lessons. Last week Lily was disappointed that they only use the slide on every other Friday and was able to coerse her instructors into taking her down the slide. I was wondering if she would be as excited this week about going down the slide now that she really knows what it is like, to fly through the air and go completely under the water. The answer is YES, she was excited, and she loved it even more this time. She was the only one in her level one class who went down the slide on her own, instead of on her instructors lap. She was smiling/ laughing so hard that she got water in her mouth everytime she went down. She didn't swallow or choke, I guess she is learning. I have never seen a kid love swim lessons as much as Lily does.
Now for my dilema and request for advice or thoughts. I am worried about the private parts talk. Lily having been cared for only by family thus far, we have never really seen a need to have a talk about private parts. Now that she is going off to school I feel the need to tell her don't let people look or touch these parts.
On the other hand I am a little hesitant to bring into Lily's perfect little world the topic of bad people.
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I haven't thought about having that talk yet, but when I do, I think I will just tell him that there are certain parts of our body that people are not allowed to touch except for me or dad or a doctor. Tell him what the parts are and that he needs to always tell me if someone touches him there or asks him to touch their private parts. I wouldn't go into great detail about it, but once in a while bring it up. Maybe those who have already had this talk will have some great advice to share. Good question!
I hate that as we get older we have to lose more and more of our innocence.
we just say that whatever parts your bathing suit covers are private parts, and no one should touch them except you or your doctor when mom or dad are there with you.
check out "On the Safe Side" by Julie Clark and John Walsh. it's a video that tells them about which people to trust and when, but it doesn't go into anything that would scare them.
Mamadaisy pretty much summed up exactly what I was going to say. As hard as having that talk is, you really need to. I bought the video for my kids and watched it with them. I would pause it every so often and answer any questions they had. The video is very silly and they loved it. They watch it all of the time which is great for reinforcement.
It is so hard to have break (for lack of a better word) our children's innocence. I always explained to my children that their private parts were theirs alone and that no one had a right to touch them unless it was a doctor (with Mom or Dad there) and/or bath time. We also made up a code word for school pickups and the like. I think you are going to do just fine with it. Hugs.
Wow some great advice. I think I will look into that video. Thanks Marsha's blogging buddies
I wish that video had been around (or I had known about it) when my DS was little.
I used My Body is Private with 4th and 5th graders at school. It is meant for 4 to 8 year olds, but it gave me a good way to discuss health and safety with my students without being concerned about it being too explicit. There are several similar books on Amazon you might want to check out, too.
It is a shame that we can't prolong innocence in the world we live in today.
Just keep in mind...this can come from you, her loving trusting parent...or it can come from some perv out in the schoolyard because she didn't know any better.
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