Monday, December 31, 2007

Perspective

My favorite part of the holidays is the part between Christmas and New Years. I love that we are no longer busy. We have time to just be. After Christmas I spent an enormous amount of time playing with Lily.

Her new favorite game is us going into her room and me pretending to be Lily and her pretending to be Mommy. She proceeds to tell me exactly what I can and cannot do. Mostly what I cannot do. She takes toys away from me and tells me to play with this other toy instead. She takes toys away from me and tells me how I should be playing with it. We do puzzles and she gives me the pieces I am allowed to put in the puzzle and tells me where exactly to put the piece. Oh my word. I cannot help but wonder if this is her perception of how I treat her? Of course it isn't the reality of how I treat her, but is it her perception? Maybe she is just a bossy little girl. Since then I have caught myself being bossy and I am taking a serious break from telling Lily exactly how to play with her toys.

Here is a photo shoot. I try to get a good photo of Lily to send to family, but it never seems to work. I think if you look at all the pictures together they are hilarious. But, none of them on their own is very good.

Happy New Year!















Sunday, December 30, 2007

Much Ado about Money

I am hosting a blog village carnival on January 28th called:

Much Ado about Money

Join us for another Family Blog Carnival - MUCH ADO about MONEY. Whether you earn it, spend it, save it, invest it, or even lose it, we all deal with money issues in our daily lives. Here's your chance to give your views on the economy, discuss ways of earning money while blogging, tell how you've gotten out of debt, or worse, how you've gotten into debt. Tell us about your business, or your dreams of a business. If your post relates to money, it's a perfect fit for this carnival. We look forward to reading what you have to say. -blogcarnival.com

A blog carnival is an opportunity for a variety of bloggers to write about the same topic and then read each others posts. Whether you write a post or just read everyone else's post carnivals give us the opportunity to meet new bloggers. On January 28th I will write a post with a list of links to all the various posts on all the various blogs participating in the carnival. Submit your post here or send me an email: marshamlow@yahoo.com

Blog village is a community of family friendly bloggers that I have belonged to for quite some time now. You are invited to become a member of blog village, go here to become a member. I have met many a blogging buddy at the village, including: Shelia, Naomi, Marion, and the founder and facilitator of the village Rosemary AKA Dirty Butter. Feel free to visit the village any time and browse through the members blogs, no membership is required to visit only to be listed. Click here to visit the village, the icon is always on my sidebar too.

The rules: A Quarterly Carnival open to all members of BLOG VILLAGE and also to any blog that links directly TO a Villager's blog. (My blog is a village blog- so you are all good). We invite you to join us in exploring a variety of Family Friendly themes.
  1. Blog MUST belong EITHER to a BLOG VILLAGE member OR link directly TO a BLOG VILLAGE Blog. - I am in the village and you all link to me...

  2. Only 1 entry per blog.

  3. Only English language posts will be accepted.

  4. No posts with titles, or with pictures, containing profanity, or of a sexual or suggestive nature, will be accepted.

  5. Choose MEMBER or GUEST from the Categories, and put the required information in the REMARKS.

  6. GUESTS of Villagers must submit the URL of the BLOG VILLAGE blog they are linked TO for your entry to be eligible for consideration.

  7. VILLAGERS need to enter their MEMBER NUMBER in the REMARKS.

  8. The post must consist of your own original work or you must have the written permission of the author of the words and images used in your post.

Or you can send me an email and I will go to all the troubles and formalities of submitting your blog. If you don't want to write a post I hope you will participate by reading the blogs listed and leaving tons of inflammatory comments.

Saturday, December 29, 2007

9:51AM

I stole this meme from Laura.

  1. What did you do in 2007 that you’d never done before?

    I moved to Mississippi, I had never been to Mississippi, who knew it would come to feel like home for me so easily.

  2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

    My resolutions are always the same: eat better, exercise more, be kinder...I never keep them

  3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

    No one in my real life. One of my very favorite bloggers Julia, has or is about to give birth to twins. After trying for many years and going through many losses. My heart is filled with so much joy for her and her family. And Sari surprised us all by telling us she was having a baby just days before she did.

  4. Did anyone close to you die?

    No, but I found out on Christmas day that my dear sweet Grandma has terminal cancer

  5. What countries did you visit?

    I started the year in Misawa, Japan. I still miss Japan sometimes, but not the snow. I really loved having a lovely 70 degree sunny Christmas day.

  6. What would you like to have in 2008 that you lacked in 2007?

    A job.

  7. What dates from 2007 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

    March 29, due to the time difference we left Japan, arrived in Mississippi and closed on our house.

  8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

    I made a lot of progress with Lily and her behavior and teaching her to count and spell etc. I helped Mandy navigate moving during her sophomore year of high school. I think I do a pretty good job of supporting and loving Jeff to help him be all that he can be. All told, I feel that my biggest achievement is being a great wife and mother.

  9. What was your biggest failure?

    I have lost my temper with Lily more times than I can count.

  10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

    I twisted my ankle at the beginning of the year, I had some pretty funky colds, I got stung by fire ants, and I got a severe case of anemia. Depending on your definition of suffer, I guess.

  11. What was the best thing you bought?

    My new house.

  12. Whose behavior merited celebration?

    Jeff, he is good to me and the girls

  13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?

    I am under strict orders not to blog about this, never give your husband your blog address. Let's just say someone has irked me more than I have been irked in 10 years. This person sent an email to us and many others to say we don't know Jesus and are in need of prayer. Right now I am in need of your prayers that I don't accidentally put rat poison in this person's coffee. Hoping Jeff doesn't read more than the first few lines as per usual or I am in BIG trouble.

  14. Where did most of your money go?

    Moving, cars, braces, Christmas, college, I don't keep track or I would have a nervous breakdown.

  15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

    Owning my own home, moving to Mississippi, volleyball games, Lily counting to 100 and then counting backwards from 100 to zero, lots of things - I am easily amused.

  16. What song will always remind you of 2007?

    Souja Boy. Do you have any idea what they lyrics of this song are? And what they mean? it is wildly inappropriate, freaks me out to see little kids doing that dance. I must be getting old to care.

  17. Compared to this time last year, are you:

    a) happier or sadder? Happier, we were about to move and that was really stressing me out.

    b) thinner or fatter? Slightly thinner.

    c) richer or poorer? much, much poorer

  18. What do you wish you’d done more of?

    Exercise

  19. What do you wish you’d done less of?

    Eating sweets

  20. How did you spend Christmas?

    We got woken at 6AM and opened presents. We ate a lovely breakfast and spent the next several hours putting things together. We had a lovely meal, a lovely walk, and then played Risk. Mandy and I teamed up to take out Jeff and Chad, we annihilated them and then put the game away. New Years we are planning to take them out playing Spades.

  21. Did you fall in love in 2007?

    Don't gag, but I love my husband more every year.

  22. What was your favorite TV program?

    Saving Grace, Monday nights on TNT.

  23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

    Yes, very much see above. I haven't hated anyone in a very long time. It is not good for me or for my family. I am working on it. But, I can't seem to get over it.

  24. What was the best book you read?

    Harry Potter

  25. What was your greatest musical discovery?

    Queen. Mandy and I both love Queen and it comes on the radio here all the time, it never came on the radio overseas. The very best moment of the year for me was singing Bohemian Rhapsody at full blast in the car driving down the road with Mandy. She and I have always been so close and these teen years have been so hard on me, just having a moment with her where we connect was rhapsody.

  26. What did you want and get?

    Globe and clock. I was so surprised.

  27. What did you want and not get?

    I can't think of anything, I am very spoiled.

  28. What was your favorite film of this year?

    I didn't see a lot of films this year, and the ones I did see are not memorable.

  29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

    I was 38 this year, I always forget and have to ask Lily. Jeff took me out to dinner and we had a family party, it was lovely.

  30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

    I feel that all my accomplishments are abstract, being a mom, being a wife, school, I wish I could have something to show for my life sometimes. Like a paycheck or a degree, an award.

  31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2007?

    My fashion is getting better. I got a cool new hair cut and I even wear makeup sometimes. I try to wear decent clothes when I go out of the house. I would say I am getting better, but still a work in progress.

  32. What kept you sane?

    Iron. Before I knew that I was anemic, I thought I was losing my mind or going threw depression. I never wanted to get out of bed and didn't have the energy to even care. I felt so guilty because my life is everything I have ever wanted. Iron pills saved my sanity.

  33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

    Julian Mahon

  34. What political issue stirred you the most?

    Education: the disparity between rich and poor, the cost of college, we suck in comparison to the rest of the world...

  35. Who did you miss?

    My family, and my friends, sometimes traveling the world is lonely.

  36. Who was the best new person you met?

    Lorelei

  37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2007


    Lily likes to push my buttons.

  38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

  39. Mississippi, won't you keep on shining on me.

Wow that was a long list.

Thursday, December 27, 2007

Braces

Mandy needs an absolute ton of dental work. She is meticulous about her teeth and has never had a cavity. But, when she was 9 she fell off of her friend's bike and knocked out her two front teeth. Over the years she has had them put back in, had a root canal, had both extracted, had dozens of temporary replacement devices. One year the flipper broke during her birthday slumber party. One broke on safari in Kenya. They break at all the wrong times.

In order to get her teeth fixed permanently we needed to wait for her to stop growing. She also needs to have braces. The loss of the two front teeth caused the bone on the top jaw to deteriorate and it is now much shorter than the bottom jaw. She has to have this repaired with braces. For the past seven years we were not living in America. Supposedly when you live overseas with the military you get free dental and orthodontics, however, the orthodontist gets to choose his patients, and he did not choose Mandy. We tried and tried for seven years, but they refused to treat Mandy and we had no other dental options, except to pay out of our own pocket for an Italian or Japanese orthodontist to treat Mandy. Have you ever heard of such nonsense, the orthodontist gets paid the same no matter how many patients he choses to treat, and he only has to treat the people whom he wishes to treat.

Now we are back in America and we have crappy dental insurance. We have been here for nine months. We started the process of getting Mandy's teeth fixed on day one. We found a local orthodontist who has a great reputation, his office can do everything we need, dentist, orthodontist, oral surgeon, implants, etc. We went to several appointments. Paid hundreds of dollars. They took xrays, impressions, did a work up and decided that they couldn't treat Mandy because her case is too severe. If it had been treated when she was nine, it would have been no problem but waiting all these years the tooth loss created bone loss etc. He sent us to a specialist about 45 minutes down the street.

We had to redo all the appointments. The xrays, the impressions, the consultations etc. Finally we have a plan. Yesterday was day one, Mandy got her spacers to get her mouth ready for the next set of impressions, followed by actually getting braces. Yesterday was also when they told us the price. Holy crap. They did give us a $500 discount if we paid up front in cash. Which took about 1/2 our savings. Now we are truly poor.

This past year we spent a whole hell of a lot more than we earned. This next year we have to cut back. Can't spend any money. At least the braces are paid for. But, the day after Christmas, wow that was awful. We now have two and a half years of braces and then her mouth will be ready for implants or a bridge depending on a lot of things. So it begins. Poor Mandy, I had braces, they hurt.

Monday, December 24, 2007

Lemons

Do you need any lemons? We have 8 bags full. The stocking are hung by the chimney with care. In hopes that St. Nicholas soon will be there. The shopping is done, too much money has been spent. The gifts are all wrapped and waiting to be opened. The packages all mailed, even to the relatives who choose not to reciprocate. Cookies are baked and delivered to the neighbors. What is a family to do, while we wait for the big day? Why pick lemons of course... I hope you enjoy my professional videography. Chad is the one on the ladder, Jeff is the one holding the ladder, Lily is the one picking up the lemons, I am holding the camera. Merry Christmas to all, would you like a glass of lemonaide? Some lemoncello? Some lemon Gelato?

Christmas Dinner Revised

  • The Chili for Christmas dinner idea was nixed by the girls. We are having a more traditional ham. I am rebelling against the formal traditional Christmas sit down dinner by serving potato salad, green salad, and Jello salad with the ham.

  • Our cat ran away several days ago. I am worried. I was having cat related nightmares, I couldn't sleep and got out of bed at 4AM

  • I kept hearing the cat meow, or was it my imagination? The dog wouldn't come in the house, she kept going over the the fence. I looked around in the dark, no cat.

  • I finally went out front, and looked on the other side of the fence, in the empty lot which is a forest, in the dark, this is where I found the cat. Could I have heard her, in my house with all the windows and doors shut, meowing in the lot next door?

  • Can a cat speak to you in your dreams?

  • She didn't lose any weight being gone for three days, I am thinking she has an alternate food source. Although, she is currently eating and purring at the same time.

  • At least we didn't lose the cat on Christmas

  • Miss Lily found her bike, hidden in the garage, her gift from Santa. I almost threw up

  • Kim has posted her french onion soup recipe, it looks great. Mine is almost identical only I make homemade beef stock and add some bourbon, just a couple of tablespoons. Hers looks much better, check it out here.

Friday, December 21, 2007

Christmas Dinner?

What are you cooking for Christmas? We have a tradition of having Chili. We open presents, eat a fabulous breakfast - eggs: with ham, cheese, onion, peppers, warm rolls, fruit. Then I make a big pot of chili and nibblies, and we just snack for the rest of the day.

It all started when we were in Italy. We had a ton of great friends and all of us being away from family we started a tradition of inviting people over to play games. We would have an open house game day. Our friends would stop by for an hour or two, we would offer them chili and other snacks, play a few games etc. Here we don't have any friends to invite over. Here everyone has their family, their friends... But, we are still having chili and games. What is on your menu?

Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Christmas Shopping

Last Friday, Jeff had the day off from work and we went to do the Christmas shopping. I mean the shopping for all the out of town relatives. We have for the most part finished our shopping for the kids, each other, and Chad. All of our family lives far away and we both have good sized families. This year I decided to cut down the list from my side of the family. I am feeling a bit guilty, but I have two brothers, and they have kids etc. These lovely brothers have never sent me even a card, no gifts, no thank yous, no cards. We spend hundreds of dollars every year to give everyone in their family a gift, and mail it to them, wrap it etc. It is a lot of money and a lot of work and I am thinking that perhaps they would feel less guilty if I like them, just sent good wishes via prayers. Those two never even email or call me...

So most of our list was Jeff's family although he has some members who are like my brothers, but it is his choice to send so we send. Jeff is not a scrooge like me. He had this great idea to go to a really cool souvenir store in our town. It was the coolest store ever, I wanted just about everything in the store. We arrived with a list of all the relatives that needed presents, a list of about 25 people. We did a cursory walk through of the store, it is big, we decided what to get and we started loading up. I was doing the picking and the crossing off the list, Jeff was doing the holding. Lily was doing the bull in a china shop. She is not the stand still keep your hands to yourself type and this store was dripping with breakables.

The owner, a little old man came by and asked Jeff why he was doing all the holding. Jeff told him that I had the list. Is it emasculating for a man to hold things in a store for his wife? Anyways, Jeff asks the man if we can have a discount if we buy in bulk, like buy 10 get one free...The man answers, HELL NO. We all have a good laugh.

Once we get all the stuff up to the counter, we are sure that every name on the list has been accounted for, I take Lily to the car. We successfully made it through the trip without breaking anything or having any screaming fits, it was time to get her out, because that window of grace is not very big. I buckle Lily into the car and the owner comes out and is asking where is the little princess. I open the window next to Lily and he hands her a present. A beautiful snow globe, a big one. He winds up the music and tells her she is a beautiful princess and wishes her a Merry Christmas. No discount but we did get a cool parting gift. The snow globe contains bison, two bison, do you think that the gulf coast of Mississippi is famous for bison? Seemed weird but we are grateful.

Jeff went and got presents for the girls while I went home and wrapped all the out of town gifts. We got them in the mail Saturday, so all is well. Sunday, I went shopping for the girls early in the morning as to avoid the crowds. I got everything on my list but the cold I which had been percolating came on full force, I almost collapsed in the store. I thought I was going to die. I am finally feeling a bit better today, still coughing but no longer do I feel like I am about to slip into unconsciousness. Our to-do list seems to be going pretty well, I am attempting to do Christmas cards today. I have never before been industrious enough to actually send one, I will try, just a card and a love, us. No pics or anything to make it more complicated than I can handle. I have to bake cookies for the neighbors who don't acknowledge my existence, because I am going to get in good with these people if it kills me, and stocking stuffers. Otherwise I think I am good. And the cold is almost gone, bonus.

Monday, December 17, 2007

The Christmas Party

Last week was the Christmas party for Jeff's office. I had to buy a present for Lily from Santa, I waited until the last moment due to all my other obligations and had a really hard time trying to buy something for her with her right there. She is so observant, I couldn't get away with anything. I also had to buy three white elephant gifts, for Jeff, Mandy and I. I also had to make a dessert, pick Mandy up from school, bla bla, bla, it was a very busy day, week, month...

I chose to get Lily a watch for her present from Santa. Santa actually came to the party and called out the kid's names. It was sweet. Lily has been interested in what time it is and little else for over a month. She asks me about the time every 10 to 15 minutes all day long. She checks all the clocks in the house etc. I thought a cute little Dora the Explorer watch of her very own would be just the right present for her. I managed to get it in the shopping cart and paid for on the sly.

When Lily opened her watch she was enormously disappointed. Mommy, why didn't Santa give me a toy? Can I play with the other kid's toys? She was so upset. I was trying to get the watch out of the package and set to the right time. That wasn't going well. This is the moment that Jeff's boss, the nice lady who let me stay with her while I came out here to find a house, this is when she sat down next to me for a conversation. I am trying to fix this cheap watch, Lily is crying, the watch keeps coming apart. It was awful. I finally got the watch on Lily, only it has a cover. You have to open a little lid to see the time. Of course it shuts so tightly that Lily needs help to open it up to see the time. And, when you open it up her skin gets pinched in the crevice. Lots more crying. Jeff's boss disappeared at some point I guess I was being rude.

All in all it was one of our better Christmas parties.

Thursday, December 13, 2007

Finished, yet hardly begun

I finally finished my class. I took my final exam last night and now it is over. I have been so busy with so many things that I haven't really even started Christmas shopping. We are extraordinarily busy today. Jeff has tomorrow off from work, so I have decided that we are going to get up early, make lists and knock out all the shopping in one morning. We will wrap in the afternoon and get it all in the mail. It would be nice to have that done, I am hoping our marathon shopping day does the trick.

I am really looking forward to doing Christmas crafts with Lily. I am thinking of stringing popcorn and cranberries, of making those paper chains, making some ornaments, and making some of those pine cone, peanut butter and bird seed things for the yard. Having a four year old at Christmas time rocks.

We have been working hard to find ways for Lily to play with other children. I was not successful in finding her a pre-school, that we could afford in our area. They are all either full or well over $100 per week. I have found that the children's museum offers a class one day per week for $25 per year. Several of the local libraries offer a story time including crafts. I joined a playgroup which meets once per month. We found some indoor and outdoor playgrounds for the days we don't have a scheduled activity. Lily gets a star on her chart when we get home if she successfully makes it through our outing without crying or hitting. Most of the kids at these things are two or three and most of the time they are sick, with snot noses and coughs, mothers discussing which antibiotic they are taking. Lily and I keep catching their crud, I just feel like asking the moms to please stay home when their kids are contagious. Is that too much to ask?

We do keep busy though, Lily and I. She is still very interested in time. We plan out our week, she likes to know what we are doing each day and at what time we are doing those things. We go over our schedule until she has it all memorized. She knows what time we are going to get ready to go, what time we are leaving, what time we are arriving, what time the activity is scheduled to begin. However, nothing ever starts when it is supposed to start. This bothers Lily to no end. We arrive at the scheduled time we sit down in the designated spot and wait for 15 or 20 minutes for these things to get going. Fifteen or twenty minutes is hard for a four year old, especially a four year old who likes things just so. I think it is a phenomenal learning experience for Lily, life isn't always laid out for you just the way you like it honey, deal with it. She has me trained and her little life at home is laid out all nice and sweet, so I drag her out into the real world and make her deal with people. This is why we have a star chart, cause she tends to get a tad upset. We have only accumulated four stars in the last two weeks of going out twice per day. When she gets 20 she gets a prize. I am thinking Easter.

I am hoping to get more of a chance to read and comment on all my favorite blogs, too.

Monday, December 10, 2007

A Christmas Miracle

First just let me say I have not slept in two day, but my final project is done. http://nova.umuc.edu/~ct386a03/index.html check it out if you are bored. It is not all that and a bag of chips, but I think it is pretty good.

Every year Mandy and I used to go and see the Nutcracker Ballet. Every since Mandy was about 4 years old. We both love the ballet so very much. When I married Jeff and we moved out of the country we did not get the opportunity to see the Nutcracker, it has been 8 Christmases. This year, due to poor planning on my part, we found out that this weekend was the absolute last chance to see the Nutcracker and Mandy's work schedule conflicted with all the showings. I was distraught, but it was probably for the best because I had so much work to do on my project - very big procrastinator am I.

On the morning of the very last day of the Nutcracker, Sunday morning to be specific. I was up early coding away on my trusty computer. Mandy had to be at work at 8AM. While she was eating breakfast, I asked her if she was sure she didn't want to call in sick, so we could go see the Nutcracker. She yelled at me. I went to brush my teeth and with a mouth full of toothpaste the phone rang, don't you just hate that?

It was Mandy's work. They told her that they were trying to cut back on hours and she would have the day off. We were five minutes from leaving to drive her to work. But, this means, NUTCRACKER. We went to the Nutcracker. We went all the way to Mobile. It was wonderful, fabulous, magical, and so lovely. I had the best time.

Our house guests, who went home today, can I just say they are lovely people. They were no trouble at all, in fact I think they helped us so much that our lives were actually less stressful than without them. We had seven people living in my 1600 sq ft, 3 bedroom house. But, it was lovely. They had discovered a place called Bellengrath Gardens near Mobile the day before. I haven't the energy to link it, but you can google, yes? I may have even spelt it wrong, but you are smart folks...

This is a huge mansion and gardens that are open as a tourist attraction. For Christmas they decorate, like nothing you have ever seen before. It took us an hour to walk around and see it all, and we were hungry so we were walking at a fast pace. I have pictures of the lights. I am not the worlds most proficient photographer but you get the idea. Wow what a day. I was away from my computer and the doings of my final project for 8 hours... I was up all night and coding all day today. Fianlly done, with two hours to spare. Way to go. Hopefully here are the pics....

Oh, and I am throwing in a few of the quilt...

Saturday, December 08, 2007

Five Zero Zero

This is most 500th post. In January I will have been blogging for three years. I enjoy blogging so much. It is my me time, sometimes the only me time I get. As I reflect back over the time I have spent blogging I think the most profound thing I have gained from this experience is the knowledge that I am a know it all and no one wants my advice. Believe it or not I was not aware of this fact pre-blog. While that is good to know, as you all know I still struggle with the telling people how to improve their life issue. My inner Dr. Phil is just aching to get out and tell you exactly how to fix your life. Not that my life is all that grand, I just have this urge...

Have you ever read a blog and felt, wow, that same exact thing happened to me? Of all the blogs in the world, I must have come here for a reason and it is surely a sign that I tell this person how to fix her life. I have learned that we all struggle with the same crap, it isn't a sign. I need to listen and learn instead of telling. Does anyone else struggle with being a know it all?

Friday, December 07, 2007

Promises, Promises

I am sorry to have not shown y'all how to make a marquee, it is pretty easy. Right now I am having a nervous breakdown, so you will have to excuse me. My final project is due Monday. All kinds of things keep getting in the way of me being able to accomplish any type of progress toward the completion of my project. I am trying to balance taking care of Lily with my school work. She just happens to be going through one of her more difficult phases. We also have a lot of invitations to Christmas type things. Since I have no friends and we don't get the chance to get out of the house and interact with people we actually know very often it is hard for me to say no. Yesterday for instance we spent the entire day out of the house. Today, Chad's parents are coming to stay with us for the weekend. We extended the invitation, come and stay with us anytime... We found out Wednesday afternoon, coming today. My house was not actually company ready. I was up all night, now my house is company ready. Lily and I just have to bath and get dressed. I don't know, am I supposed to cook and entertain all weekend? I just feel awful saying I will be locked in a closet... I am going to try to get through this all with some grace. BTW, Katya if you are reading this, can you help me find a performance of the nutcracker somewhere within a 100 miles. We were planning to go to a local performance this weekend, but Mandy's work schedule is conflicting. I haven't seen the nutcracker in 8 Christmases, it is a tradition, well maybe not really anymore.

A marquee code tutorial can be found here.

I am afraid I don't know how to type code in a blog post???

Monday, December 03, 2007



TODAY

I taught Lily to play memory



TONIGHT

learned to make a marquee



TUESDAY

need to start final project



WEDNESDAY

Going to see Angelina Balerina


Confusing

The more I think about this the more confused I become. -Luckzmom

Wow, that is deep. I couldn't have said it better myself. I sometimes have trouble expressing what I think, I know what I think, but explaining it, I cannot find the words. Sometimes when I discuss it with others I think, yes that is it, or no that isn't what I was thinking, but it helps me find my words.

If we made a scale from one to ten, private to intimate. One being the loneliest number and representing a person who does not enjoy sharing themselves with others, someone who is very private, someone who does not especially like to be around other people. Ten being a person who holds nothing back, will tell perfect strangers at the grocery store the most embarrassing and humiliating details of their lives. Most people fall somewhere in between those two extremes.

I know that when I was a child I was much closer to a one than I am now. I didn't trust anyone. In fact as a child, teen, even in my twenties, I tended to lie more than not. Not because I wanted to trick people for personal gain, but because I really didn't like to let people really see me at all. I dated a lot of guys who were pretty close to the one on this scale. Guys who didn't call when they said they would call, they wouldn't say for sure if they were coming over on a specific night, wouldn't say for sure if you were boyfriend/girlfriend or not. They kept themselves separate, I kept myself separate.

I feel that this keeping oneself separate is different than making sure to take some time out for oneself. Like having a job, friends, interests outside of the family - I don't think it is the same as keeping oneself separate. I am not sure if these things are just different numbers on the same scale or if these things are different scales all together.

Sunday, December 02, 2007

Little Bits of Separation

When Lily was only a few months old I decided to go back and try to do this college thing again. Being a stay at home mom, this was my first time out of the house in months. I just loved the opportunity to be Marsha. Not Jeff's wife, not Mandy's mom, not Lily's mom - Marsha.

We read and discussed a lot of interesting material. My professor was the best professor ever, he knew how to get a good argument going. Turns out that most of the time I disagreed with everyone in the class (I know you are all shocked). Still I had a great time debating all kinds of things. One of the other students was a Japanese national, she was not married and nearly 40. This is very uncommon in in the rural northern part of Japan where we lived. Living near the military base gave her the opportunity to have a job, on the American military base, and support herself.

She asked me about marriage, she had noticed throughout the class that I am very outspoken and basically a hard core feminist. She was baffled about how I could be married. I am pretty sure all the small minded young soldiers in our class were thinking the same thing. She asked me some hard questions that I still think about sometimes. And I still do not know how to answer those questions. Having Chad, a single guy around has brought these thoughts to me again.

She wonders if I had to give up a part of myself to my husband. If it was hard to have to share my whole self with him. If I sometimes wished I could keep a part of me separate from husband and children and just be me. At first I say no. But, then I remember how much I enjoyed going to school away from the family and just having some people know me for me. But, I enjoy being married. That is the understatement of a lifetime. I am so much happier, so much more peaceful, so much more of myself, being married.

I notice that Chad doesn't tell us when he is coming or going. He doesn't tell us when to expect him for meals or what time he needs the shower or anything. There is no communication. If we ask questions his posture suggests we are encroaching on his privacy. Which totally cracks me up because Jeff and I discuss EVERYTHING. We are all on the same page here, there are no hurt feelings or misunderstandings. No one tries to mislead or get away with anything. I don't feel like this is giving up my privacy. Perhaps it is because I don't feel like anyone here is judging me. I lay it all out there and I know they are going to love me.

I wonder if this means that Jeff and I are the type of people that are made for marriage. And other people are just not the type of people who are made for marriage. Or does this mean that we are married so we have changed? I do need to get out into the world away from the family a bit more. I enjoy it when I do, but I fear it too.

Do you keep a bit of yourself, or do you wish you could keep a bit of yourself, separate from your husband/wife?

Friday, November 30, 2007

I did it


Lily and I took a walk down to see the Gulf. I somehow stubbed my toe and pulled off the nail about half way, ouch. We came across a man who was fishing. He spoke in the exact accent that the guy on King of the Hill, who you cannot understand, uses. It cracked me up. I had no idea what he said. Instead of saying, what? I asked him if he had seen seen the alligator. He said he hadn't seen her today, but that he say her earlier in the week. Then he started going off in that accent I cannot understand. I just kept walking. I wonder what he said? He wasn't cute like the guy on King of the Hill, he was old and had a dirty shirt, with his big belly sticking out. I think he was the first back water good ole boy I have met since moving to Mississippi, he seemed nice.

Thursday, November 29, 2007

Pompeii

In January 2002, shortly after my first miscariage, Jeff decided what we really needed was a trip. He picked Pompei as our destination. We rode the trains from where we lived in Pordenone to Pomepei. Picture northeast corner of Italy to mid to lower west coast of Italy. This train trip took us through Rome, the only time in my two years living in Italy that I saw Rome, was out the train window. I guess our time in Italy was spent taking the road less traveled. We kept putting off Rome and then we were gone.

Pompeii was completely destroyed in the year 79, by a volcanic erruption of the nearby Mount Vesuvius. The entire city of Pompeii has been escavated and you can go there and see an entire Roman city. There is so much detail. It is not a couple of buildings but blocks and blocks of buildings, an entire city. There is so much detail, the paintings on the walls inside the homes and shops. The address outside each house along the street. Sidewalks, billboards, two arenas, fountains, so much detail. We were the only people there that day, the whole city to explore on our own. It was amazing. The hotel we stayed at was phenominal. We didn't have the opportunity to stay in hotels very often during our time in Europe. We lived there. When we did stay in hotels it was always on a budget, and our rooms were always so small you would not believe it. In Pompeii our hotel was lovely. Our room was good sized. We even had a balcony.

We hoped on the train from Pompeii and explored a bit of the northern portion of the Almafi Coast. We had a lovely dinner and bought some lovely jewlery. I think that I had the best lasagne of my life on this trip. As luck would have it I was able to find photos of this adventure. Enjoy.

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Are we there yet?

Does anyone have any ideas for a blog post? This is excruciating. How many days left in November? Why do I always wait until the last moment?

One of the things I love most about being a stay at home mom is the fact that I am never in a hurry or running late. I like to live my life at my own pace. It is peaceful. Someone taught Lily how to tell time. She is driving me crazy.

Every day we have the same tentative schedule, we do things in the same order and most likely at about the same time. I don't really look at the clock so who knows. I wont bore you with the details of our mundane schedule today. At breakfast Lily has started asking me what time are we going to do this, that and the other. I tried to tell her, whenever. She did not accept that answer. I tried making up approximate times. She is now holding me to those arbitrary times. All day long she is like the rabbit with the watch, telling me we are late, we are late. I am going to have to read her Alice in Wonderland.

I am being hustled out the door by a four year old so that we are not late for the playground. Today was a lovely day at the playground too, a short sleeved shirt day, with blue skies. I think Lily gets the majority of her personality from her dad.

On the other hand... We were at the grocery store later and Lily was being her normal incredibly happy and social self. Saying hello to all the people and to all the isle numbers, the apples, etc. She has a bounce in her step that make it seem as if her feet don't even touch the ground. She is always talking, with so much happiness and love for life that people tend to stop what they are doing and take notice. I am used to the child and I don't know that I particularly notice her love of life every moment. Occasionally someone will say something, like is she always that happy and it reminds me of just how lovely it is to be with her all day. After that reminder I spend the rest of the day marveling in how happy and fun she really is.

Even if she is reminding me that I have to hurry because we are eating lunch in exactly one minute, not when we are hungry, or when we happen to think about it, we must eat lunch at exactly twelve zero zero.

Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Assisi

Another of our day trips while living in Italy was to Assisi, which is also located in the Umbria region. Assisi is the birth place of St. Francis. We went to Assisi on a tour bus instead of driving there ourselves. We discovered on this trip that we preferred to travel with our own car. Tours are nice, you get to sleep instead of drive and you get a guided tour. Jeff and Mandy do not like the guided tours, too much talking, and I don't like to ride on buses so much.

We arrived in Assisi on a very cold, rainy day with extremely cold and strong winds. The town of Assisi is full of hills, so imagine us walking up steep hills in the rain with 100 mile per hour wind blowing toward us. This is how I remember Assisi. Whenever we got to a location of interest and took shelter inside. We got to see the church that St. Francis attended as a child. We got to sit in the pew and look at the cross he was looking at when God spoke to him.

My favorite part of the day was at the church built after his death a monument built to him. Inside this enormous cathedral was the small home that he lived in during his adult years. St. Francis was born into a wealthy family and grew up as a playboy of sorts. He enjoyed spending money and having fun. When he was fighting in the army and then held prisoner for over a year he contracted a fever and almost died. During this time of extreme duress he found a deeper meaning to life. He began a journey of discovery and eventually became a saint. During this journey of discovery, at one point he was feeling that he wasn't close enough to God, or that his spirituality wasn't enough and he decided that perhaps if he were to go outside and roll around naked in the brambles, that the pain and duress would help him to journey even closer to God. When he began to roll in the brambles just outside his house they were miraculously changed from brambles to roses, but roses have thorns and would hurt just as much, not these roses, these roses were thornless roses. He found himself rolling around in thornless rose bushes.

Inside this cathedral made as a monument to St. Francis is his old home, a tiny brick house no bigger than a closet. But, also there is a garden, a garden filled with those thornless roses. Which have been carefully and lovingly tended for over a century by the people of Assisi. Within this Cathedral, you go down a hall and you look through a window, and through that window you can see the rose garden. You cannot go into that garden or touch those roses but even on a cold and blustery winter day there were a few blossoms on the very truly thornless rose bushes. I felt an enormous spiritual connection to St. Francis that day. I believed the miracle of the rose bushes. I don't normally believe in the supernatural aspects of religion all that much. If I hadn't been in that church I would have thought of that story as a fairy tale like that of Cinderella, but having been there I have to tell you it felt very real to me that day. I am most certain that a miracle happened, the miraculous thornless roses.

I like to think of God in this way, I take that thought of a loving God who would not want his child to suffer, I take that with me everyday. I don't believe that people need to suffer to learn or to grow.

Monday, November 26, 2007

All quilted out

I have spent the last few days doing almost nothing but quilting. Trying to complete my very first quilt. It has been a long road. I have found that I am not very good at measuring, not very good at cutting, not very good at sewing a straight line...All that and it was still going pretty good. But, today I found out that you should actually read all the directions and not just assume you know the rest. So I am not very good at following directions. I made a huge mistake and spent the rest of the day trying to fix it. I am a little disappointed but the end result is ok. I still have a bit of fixing to do tomorrow and then maybe I will take a picture or two.

Lily helped me with the whole thing. It is a new quilt for her because she has outgrown her baby quilt. She loves it tremendously, I guess that is all that matters. I really learned a lot and I can now say that I can thread the machine, fill the bobbin and sew a very straight line.

In other news Trent Lott resigned but I cannot figure out why. He is actually from a town just down the road from where I am currently living. He is also responsible for doing a great deal of good for this community after Katrina. I always say that we all have more in common than we imagine.

Sunday, November 25, 2007

The Christmas Tree


We still haven't gotten the lights outside put up, I guess the turkey still has us in a fog. It is almost gone, back to having to cook I guess.

We own a fake white Christmas tree. You can go here and watch a video I made last Christmas of Lily singing her ABC's next to our Christmas tree. Ok, you only see a little bit of the tree, but isn't Lily cute? We originally bought this tree because I am allergic to the real thing. Jeff went to the store and bought the cheapest tree he saw, he didn't notice that it was white or that it was only about 3 feet tall. The picture on the box was of a green really tall tree.

We had the little white tree for many years. The first few years we covered her in Christmas lights that had a green wire, we finally found a white strand of lights last year and our tree looked almost respectable. The thing about fake trees is that through all the moves and all the time spent in boxes the tree starts to look pretty bad. This year when we took it out of the box it was not only all scrunched up and pathetic but it had turned brownish. I don't know if it was the water damage from the move or from the high heat and humidity of our garage this summer, but our little white tree was retired this year.

Instead of getting another fake tree, I let Jeff get a real one. He was so excited. So here I am typing to you sitting next to my enormous real Christmas tree, anyone have any Clariton?

Now we couldn't very well put our white strand of lights around our green tree. We decided instead to take the green strand of lights that we had bought to put up around the house, around the tree instead. Except Jeff didn't think that was such a great idea, because the strands are terrible long and it was difficult to get around the tree. I was also complaining that Jeff had put the tree too close to the wall making it even more difficult to get the lights up. Chad sat back and took intermittent pictures of our tree trimming "discussions". I have a feeling after spending time with us Chad will never get married.

Mandy had a hard day at work and did not want to participate in the tree picking or tree trimming. Or even the going out to Chinese food for dinner. Lily helped decorate the tree by throwing ornaments into a hole between the branches. Which I did not notice for some time. Who knows how many of our ornaments were tossed into Lily's black hole. Now we just have to do the outside of the house and we will be set.

Saturday, November 24, 2007

A perfect day

While I should be doing homework, we are sitting around watching the Virginia vs. Virginia Tech game. Go Virginia. My belly is full of leftovers. Don't have to cook. Another perfect day.

Friday, November 23, 2007

Nice Matters


Dixie was kind enough to give me the Nice Matters Award that I would like to pass on to some of my blogging buddies. Of course you are all very nice!

Lynn, one of the nicest people I have never met, always kind on her blog and on others, always finds something nice to say. I hope I can be more like Lynn someday.

Shelia,is a great combinations of nice and smart. Always giving good advice and thoughtful blog posts and comments.

Lorelei, OK so she is a bit of a Yankee, but still sweet underneath it all. I bet if I ever needed anything Lorelei would be there, stand by your friends thick and thin kind of girl. And it is nice to have someone who always makes you laugh and tells it like it is.

Angel, Can't ever have a list without Angel. Not only are you nice but you are fun. Where is the Moscato.

Kimberly, I know you are out of town and wont even see this, still I would feel bad not putting your name down.

Laura Capello, We have been blogging buddies forever now. Always nice to get a chance to sit with the popular kids.

Mrs. Grumpy, I know that nice is not how you are currently feeling about yourself, but that is how I see you. Sending good thoughts.

Everyone else who takes the time to stop by and read my blog, I cannot tell you how much I appreciate your friendship and comments. I almost forgot to post today and just got this in by the skin of my teeth. Hopefully I will tag those I left out on the next one that rolls through. I still have a ton of these to pass out. I am slow, sorry.

Thursday, November 22, 2007

Jumping the Fence

Our dinner went well. I cooked the whole thing on my own, with a lot of help from Wal-Mart. Nothing was perfect, I actually forgot to put the mashed potatoes and stuffing on the table until we were done. I made everyone sit back down and eat some. Most years my turkey gets done a couple of hours past the time I estimate, this year it was a couple of hours earlier. Is that Karma? Otherwise it was a perfect meal. Everything tasted great and we were all happy and thankful. The only thing Lily will eat today is carrots, raw sliced carrots. The rest of the food she wont even taste.

We played football in the yard. It was a crisp fall day. We are not terribly athletic and Lily was not having any fun. She said, "Excuse Me Everybody, I want to play hide and seek". So we did. We were hiding in our neighbors yards, crouched behind garbage cans, jumping fences, laughing our butts off. I am surprised we didn't get shot.

After dinner, I took a lovely nap. Then we had the outdoor games, dessert, and then... We went to the Big Lots sale and got our Christmas decorations. We haven't had the opportunity to decorate outside of the house before so we stocked up. It was so much fun. We saw many of the Griswald type decorated houses on our way home. I am excited to be in the competition. Tomorrow we are hitting the sales bright and early. We have marked down all the stores we have to hit and what we are getting at each store. This is my first holiday season in America is many years and I am so excited.

Don't forget to check out, Ugly Christmas Lights.

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

happy Thanksgiving

I hope y'all have a lovely turkey day.

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Turn that frown upside down

This post is brought to you today by the word SMILE, lol-I crack myself up-too much Sesame Street I suppose...

We did eventually make it over to Pisa. It was a bit of a drive from our home in Pordenone. If memory serves it was a 5 or 6 hour drive? We left our house at 0'dark early and arrived at around 10AM. We were of course hungry, but there is no food served in Italy until 12:30PM therefore we stopped at Camp Darby, an Army Post, and grabbed a quick bite at the Burger King.

When we arrived at Pisa I was very disappointed. The whole thing is a courtyard with the tower and a church and I think there is another building? We did not have a reservation to climb to the top of the tower and it was very expensive if memory serves. For some reason we didn't climb to the top. We walked around, went in all the buildings and an hour later we were looking at each other like, what now?

I had noticed on our way to Pisa that we had driven past the city of Vinci. I looked it up in my travel book and it was the Vinci - as in Leonardo di Vinci (Leonardo from Vinci). It was on our way home, if you think getting off the main road and driving on tiny back streets for a hundred miles is on the way. (that is a really rough and most likely exaggerated estimate). Mandy and I were able to convince Jeff to take the detour. We arrived in Vinci at about 5PM. By this time we had been on the road for a very long time, Jeff was not in the mood to do a lot of museums. I love museums and Vinci has tons of museums all about our dear Leonardo. Jeff made me pick one.

I picked the closest museum and we entered. It was like a house the had been turned into a museum. There was an entry way and then you traveled from room to room. This was the most wonderful and fabulous museum in the entire world. You really have to go. Leonardo kept a sketch pad of ideas. He would think of an invention and then draw out a sketch, he would include dimensions and mechanical jargon. Most of these inventions never made it past his sketch pad. The people of Vinci had taken these sketches and built the actual item from the sketch. The actual sketches are housed in Paris, but copies of the sketch are framed on the wall next to an actual rendering of the object. They also show the year Leonardo made the sketch and then the year that object was actually invented. You see he invented all kinds of things hundreds of years before those things were invented by someone else. I always wonder if the second person who saw his sketches or if it was a coincidence? Some of these items include the bicycle, the helicopter, the machine gun, the hand glider, that is all that comes to my mind. It was so much fun to see all these things.

We also bought a print of one of Leonardo's sketches for only a couple of dollars. It says on the bottom of the sketch that it was printed in Vinci, Italy. So cool. I had it framed and it is one of my most treasured pieces.

By this time we were very hungry, it was around 6PM no restaurants serve food at 6PM in Italy. So we stopped and ate dinner on the way home at a rest stop along the Autostrata, an Auto Grill. It was pretty good.



I have been tagged for a ton of Memes and I have been so very bad at keeping up. So sorry, I feel like an ingrate. I am going to try and put a meme at the bottom of every post until I catch back up.

This first one is an award given to me by the Nap Warden. This is the makes me smile award. Thank you very much. Be sure to check out her blog, Chronicles of a Stay at Home Mom. Her blog is smart, funny and very upbeat. I am passing this award along to some of my blogging buddies who have left comments that made me smile this week.


meno, I loved your yellow lab comment.
mamadaisy, I loved that you felt about the Colosseum the same way I felt about some of the places I have been-feeling history.
marion, sitting on the stones that told the stories of the ages, I love that you put into words what I was thinking.
luckzmom, I too have been moved to tears by the history of a place, glad to have a kindered spirit.
lorelei, you totally made me smile with your comment about a good meal, "The only thing I can make is reservations."

Monday, November 19, 2007

Walking

Jeff and I are doing a walk your way to fitness through the holidays thing with the base. We got pedometers and we have to keep track of our daily steps until Jan. 1st. Jeff and I are competing with one another to see who does the most steps between now and the end of the contest. We haven't decided what the winner will get. So far he is beating me, big surprise. We did go for an evening walk together. I am amazed to see how sedentary I really am. Hopefully I can kick it up a notch. Any ideas what I should ask for when I win?

Sunday, November 18, 2007

Pixie the wonder dog

Last night our dog was out in the back yard barking up a storm. Jeff opened the back door to call her in, but she wouldn't come. He put on some shoes, went out into the yard and tried to get her to come in the house. I was in the house listening to Jeff yell, "Pixie" for quite some time. I finally went out to see what was going on.

There was an enormous opossum on the top of our fence. At least that is what we are saying it was in actuality it was dark and it was huge, it had a bald tail and that is about all we know. We were afraid to get between Pixie and the opossum so we were trying to call Pixie away from the fence. Of course she wouldn't listen. Jeff has this habit of standing up with his full six feet and yelling, "Pixie" and wondering why she never listens to him. I always just squat down and hold out my hand. I don't even have to call her she just comes to me when I do this. This is especially helpful when she runs out the front door and down the street at the speed of lightning.

I picked her up, even though she is a pretty good sized dog, and carried her into the house. She was upset and wanted back out. I was proud of her for protecting the family.

Later that night, our friend Chad, who is staying with us off and on, came to our house late at night when we were all asleep. Our lovely dog didn't even wake up.

Saturday, November 17, 2007

Mean Girls on MySpace

Have you heard about this story?

A 13 year old girl killed herself after being targeted on MySpace. Someone from her neighborhood who did not care for this girl pretended to be a boy named Josh. "Josh" spent a month sending messages back and forth with this girl. One day "Josh" told the girl she was cruel, and a slut, and fat. The girl killed herself.

I remember when I was 13, I remember when Mandy was 13 sometimes I wonder how we ever got through it all. Even now at nearly 17 Mandy sometimes gets her feelings really hurt by her girls friends. When I was growing up we didn't have MySpace, we had the school bus and the playground. People were still mean, they found a way. Is it worse now with the anonymity of the Internet?

Friday, November 16, 2007

Gubbio

One weekend not long after our trip to Salzburg, we decided to go to see the leaning tower of Pisa. It had just re-opened and they were allowing people to climb up to the top of the tower again after having been closed for quite some time for renovations. Just as we were about to leave, we found out that in order to climb to the top of the tower you needed to have a reservation. They only wanted a few people per day to climb up the tower and it took awhile to get a reservation. So we decided to go another day. What is the point of driving all that way if you are not going to get to climb up the tower.

Jeff and I couldn't decide where we should go instead. Our gas tank was full, we had snacks we wanted a trip. We decided to give the tour book to Mandy and let her pick where we would go that day. Mandy picked Gubbio.

Gubbio is a little town in the middle of the Umbria region. Italy is broken up into regions like we are broken up into states. Each region has differing characteristics just like our states are very different. For me the Umbria region is my favorite. While Verona is my favorite city, Verona being in the Venito region, Umbria is my favorite region and Gubbio is my favorite city in Umbria. That probably makes no sense to anyone but me.

There is not a train station in Gubbio, this makes it very remote. The Umbria region is mountainous and to get to Gubbio you have to drive and you have to drive along windy roads. It took forever but we finally found the little town.

While we were in Salzburg we bought a Christmas ornament for about $50, we saw one in Gubbio for about $2, you see the difference between being a tourist town and an out of the way town with no trains going through.

There wasn't a McDonald's or a tourist book at the newspaper stand. We saw a big castle at the top of the hill and decided to start our tour of Gubbio there. Aren't we clever? It turns out that the Castle/Fortress was turned into a cool museum. We had a lot of fun browsing the museum. Around the museum are little shops. We browsed the little shops and bought a ton of medieval weapons. They were very reasonably priced and authentic weapons. Like a ball and chain, a cross bow, daggers, etc. We spotted a suit of Armour. Head to toe, full suit of armour with amazing details. It was only a couple hundred dollars. We decided not to buy it that day. Can you believe that? I have regretted it ever since. Jeff and I often talk about going back to Gubbio, just to buy that suit of Armour. I wonder if it is still there. Probably missed our opportunity. Wouldn't that make the coolest library, a suit of armour and our massive weapons collection. While I collect art, Jeff and Mandy collect weapons every where we go. We have a ton of weapons,which is so weird, for a peace lover like me.

Thursday, November 15, 2007

The Concert

Last night I stayed up until midnight waiting for Mandy to come home. She went to a concert on a school night. Aren't I a great mom? It was called the Carnival of Chaos and there were four bands: Red, Three Days Grace, Seether and Breaking Benjamin. I have never heard of any of them. Mandy says I would recognize their songs if I heard them...

A boy invited her, he paid for her ticket, he picked her up, he brought her home (actually he doesn't drive either so it was his parents). She says this is not a date. I wonder what a date is? She had so much fun, she was bouncing off the walls when she came home. I imagine that she is sleeping in class right now.

There was another concert in town this week one featuring Rick Springfield and Eddie Money, now I have heard of them.

Wednesday, November 14, 2007

Salzburg, Austria

We actually went to Salzburg twice, you can read about our first trip here. It is also a funny story where I make fun of Jeff and there are a few photos.

Our second trip to Salzburg was with some friends, we wanted to go visit the famous Christmas market. Our friends had a Dodge Durango, an enormous vehicle, we had a lot of people in that vehicle and a lot of room. The drive from Italy to Austria was a lot of fun with a SUV full of fun people. It was snowing that day, and our driver was a bit of a daredevil. I was scared we were all going to die, but I tried to keep it to myself. I always like it better when Jeff drives, he is an excellent driver and not one of those guys who feels the need to push the limits past what is safe.

Driving up through Austria we pass by beautiful mountains, and castles, the whole drive is almost as fun as the destination. In the summertime what I really love is the crops growing on the sides of the mountains. Like a patch work quilt the smaller greener mountains are covered with squares of crops. It is quite an interesting site. Other mountains are the really tall rugged type, that are stone, and harsh, Jeff loves those types of mountains. The view along the drive changes and I always loved driving up to Austria.

When we got to the Christmas market in Salzburg, we got some warm mulled cider, that was good. The day was just cold enough for snow, we dressed appropriately, the big fat snow flakes were falling from the sky. There wasn't any wind, and we were warm as we walked around. The city looked like a Christmas village, all lit up, snow falling, quaint centuries old buildings. I felt like I was in a movie. We had a big lunch and then we went about the task of browsing through all the wares at the Christmas market.

Mandy was at that age, where she knew everything. I tried to tell her to dress warm before we left. She assured me that she knew. I let it go. She wore tennis shoes and thin socks. We were walking around outside in the snow for hours. Her feet got very cold. At the Christmas market I bought her a pair of new socks. The cost about $100 dollars. Never buy new socks at a Christmas market in Austria, they were really warm, wool, thick, but $100. Jeff was furious. That was pretty much all the money we had brought with us. But, Mandy's feet were warm.

We also bought a hand painted Christmas ornament. I still have it. It is lovely. Reminds me of that perfect day at the quaint Christmas market. Later I tried the hot wine, and all the snacks we could get our hands on, they were tasty. The market wasn't all that big, just some tables in the middle of the town square. The stuff being sold wasn't that interesting, unless you count the socks and the ornament. But, we just had an enormously wonderful day. I think it is one of those things that you really only get to see if you live in Europe. It wasn't really a tourist event as a local event. I will always remember those fat snow flakes and the hot wine. It really was a great day.

Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Happy Anniversary

I had a lot of fun reminiscing about Italy yesterday. Today our seventh anniversary, Jeff and mine. Jeff took the day off from work and then when Mandy got home from school we went out on a date. It was a lot of fun. We even went to an Italian restaurant for dinner. We strolled through town. Browsed the antique shops, the art shops, the toy store. We love it here. We go out on a date every year for our anniversary, we usually talk about our dream home, this year, we own our dream home.

Anniversary story year 6

Anniversary Story year 5

I am married to a man who is honest, not in the...you look fat in those pants...way but in the...does what he says he will do, is where he says he will be, never hide things...kind of way.

I am married to a man with integrity. He would rather do the right thing, than do the thing that would be in his own best interest.

I am married to a man who loves me and our girls. He shows it every day, in every way.

A month ago Jeff saw through a store window the perfect anniversary present for me. I went in the store and they didn't have any more. Only the display model. They didn't even have a box. He had them put it in a box that didn't really fit. He called me from the parking lot he was so excited about this gift.

He walked through the front door and insisted I open the gift. Both his feet had not even gotten in the front door and he was insisting that I open the box right away. A month to our anniversary. I complied.

The gift was a lovely globe. Almost as tall as me. One of those old fashioned looking globes in the neutral colors. It is on a beautiful wood stand. It is really the best present ever. I love globes. I have it next to my favorite chair. I am always looking over at my globe, yesterday I looked to see which state is above Louisiana, just cause I was curious. And what it that country that is the size of a city, between Switzerland and Germany, I always forget that one. See a globe comes in handy. I got Jeff a shirt with fish on it.

Monday, November 12, 2007

In fair Verona

Two households, both alike in dignity, In fair Verona, where we lay our scene
-William Shakespeare from Romeo & Juliet


One of my favorite trips was to Verona. We were only there for an afternoon, still it has been with me ever since. Maybe because we got some great artwork and I look upon the scenes from Verona every morning. Maybe because this city is the setting for Romeo and Juliet. Whatever the reason, Verona is my favorite city in all of Italy, maybe in all the world.

This trip was one of the first trips I took with Jeff after we got married. One of my very first adventures. Jeff, Mandy and I drove from our home in Pordenone to Verona. I think the drive was two or three hours, not far. We arrived in the down town section, the older section of town and found a place to park our car. We then found a newspaper stand and bought a book about Verona. The thing about Europe that makes travel so easy is that they take care of the tourists, the bumbling Americans who have no knowledge of the language or history. Every city sells books about their city in a variety of languages. All you have to do is find a newspaper stand and buy a book. They usually only cost a few dollars. The books tell you everything you need to know about that city, big beautiful pictures, history and maps. As soon as we buy our book we find the nearest McDonald's and we get ourselves a lunch and plan our day. This is pretty much how we bumbled our way through Europe. Had a great time. Saw many things. It is nice to live there for a few years, to be able to just show up and look around every weekend was an adventure.

What I remember most about Verona is going to see Juliet's house and standing on Juliet's balcony. At first I was skeptical, because Romeo and Juliet is a work of fiction, not a true story, not a story from a history book, it is a play, made up by William Shakespeare. It is a wonderfully written story, it is world renowned, a story known by all, but it is not a record of actual events. Well, not according to the people of Verona, they say that William witnessed the true and actual goings on between Romeo and Juliet and wrote he play about actual events. So we went and stood on Juliet's balcony. Jeff took our picture. It is in a box in my garage, maybe someday I will dig it out and scan the picture and prove to y'all that I once stood on the balcony of Juliet, where Romeo stood below and said those sweet words. I believe my husband called up to me from bellow, something about hurry up, I am hungry. Just kidding.

While Mandy and I pushed our way through the crowds to descend back to the street, through the house of Juliet, Jeff secretly bought a sketch of the balcony. He later had that sketch beautifully framed and he gave it to me for a present. I cherish that picture still today, it hangs in my dinning room, near a framed poster I bought while we were on the streets of Verona, that I later had framed. I guess you could say that I have a dinning room dedicated to the memory of my trip to Verona.

The other thing that really stands out in my mind is the Arena. It looks like the Colosseum in Rome, maybe a little smaller. It was built in the first century. For two thousand years it has been used. First for the gladiators, now days it is used for Operas and concerts. Elton John played there while we were in Italy, I almost bought tickets, I still kick myself for not going. While we were there that day, we bought tickets and just wandered around the arena. It surprised me how much it is like the coliseums in our modern cities. A big entrance, you follow signs to get to your section, you go through tunnels, the tunnels split, you go this way or that way to get to your section. The only difference is that it is all made of stone, the walls, the ceiling, the stairs, the seats, the stage, it is all stone. The stones were worn. Where you place your feet, walking down the stairs, there stone is worn. The seats are worn wear you sit. How many feet, how many butts does it take to wear the stone. Two thousand years worth of wear and tear. It makes me feel a part of life, all the life that has existed, all the lives that have passed through this arena. All the feet that wore away the footprints on the stone stairs. All those events.

You know how it feels to be at a concert, to be at a sporting event. The excitement of the crowd the pulse of the event courses through everyone there. I think I was able to feel a bit of that history a bit of the spirit of all that excitement, as I sat in the empty stone seat on that warm summer afternoon.

I guess this is one of the reasons I enjoy traveling so much. I enjoy learning the history of places and I sometimes can feel the history of a place, the spirit of that place seems to exist, like the place has a memory of all that has happened. I have felt that way only a few times, here in the Arena in Verona. I also felt it in the concentration camp we visited in Germany, I felt it at St. Marcos square in Venice, and at the Pyramids in Egypt. Have you ever felt that way, felt the history of a place, felt the spirit of the events of the people.

Sunday, November 11, 2007

Eatin' Well

Jeff, Mandy & Chad went to The University of Southern Mississippi to see a football game. This was Jeff & Mandy's second time going there to see a game. They had a blast. Jeff took pictures and complains that I do not post stories of the things he and Mandy do or post the pictures he takes on my blog. He thinks this blog belongs to our family and I am just the gatekeeper. Now I understand why others don't tell their husbands about their blogs.

It always surprises me when Jeff reads my blog and has a differing recollection of events.

After the game, driving home, Jeff and Chad decided that they wanted The Shed for dinner. Mandy does not like bbq at all and took a pass. She offered to take care of Lily so I could go to out to dinner with the boys. How sweet is that?

They didn't get back until almost 9PM. We went straight to The Shed and had the most fabulous bbq in the world. There was a live band and a bon fire, the temperature was perfect. We had a great time. But, I really do not recommend eating bbq at 9PM, especially if you are planning on going to bed afterwards. Still it was a lot of fun and I just love those baby back ribs, the meat melts in my mouth.

Today I worked on homework all day. Trying to catch up. It is going OK, I still have a long way to go. Jeff offered to cook dinner. He went to the store and picked up some steaks. Not the cheap steaks he normally picks up but real steaks. He put together the bbq grill I bought him for father's day. Actually we did that together, reminiscing over the other times we have put things together. Seven years of marriage has taught us how to work together a little better. More laughing and support less bickering. I guess we know each others strengths and weaknesses now. I don't follow directions well and Jeff doesn't handle tiny pieces well. It only took us an hour.

Jeff cooked us up those good steaks, he cooked them to perfection, over a charcoal grill. It was even better than The Shed, melted in my mouth like butter. How did I get so lucky? I guess I am going to have to cook tomorrow. Grilled cheese?

Saturday, November 10, 2007

Eight Things

My new blogging buddy Marion, a fellow blog villager tagged me some time ago for a meme. Marion's blog Herbal Connection is wonderful. She is such a wonderful writer. An ordinary trip to the story is told with so much personality that I feel such a connection to Marion. All those things that run through our heads as we lead our life, she has a magical way of capturing life, that makes me feel like saying, yes-that is just what I think. I strongly recommend that you add Marion to your daily read. Sorry it has taken me so long to do this meme. I am supposed to tell you eight things not generally known about me....

  1. I have zero grace. I am incredibly envious of people who have grace. I just bumble through things, always in a hurry, always efficient, never graceful. I took ballet as a little girl, I can only imagine what that looked like. I still have bruises on my legs from bumping into things.
  2. I have a brown thumb. I buy plants, I plant things, they all die. I want to be a gardener, but it usually does not work out so well. I am most surprised that my animals and kids survive me.
  3. The only sweet I like is chocolate, I don't really like any other type of candy or treat, I don't particularly like ice cream either. But, I love me some chocolate.
  4. My favorite colors change all the time. One day I can love a color and the next day, not so much. I always love green. Some days I adore turquoise some days I can't stand it, same with pink.
  5. Speaking of color, Lily and I wear the same color everyday. We have the same coloring and I tend to, buy her the same colors as I buy for myself. I don't do it intentionally, I honestly don't even notice that we are wearing the same color until Jeff points it out. Even right now we are both wearing pink shirts. I don't know how it happens, she picks out her own clothes now. I am not sure if I am copying her or if she is copying me. It happened when she was a baby too. It freaks me out a bit, because it really is not intentional. I just don't pay attention, and it just happens.
  6. I believe that drinking water will cure anything. Anytime anyone in my family has any problem at all, I give them water. Headache, when was the last time you drank water. Stuffy nose, drink some water. Twisted your ankle, you need water to improve your circulation and kick start the healing process. Plus if you freeze it you can have an ice pack.
  7. I collect globes, maps and clocks. Maybe this is why Lily is the way she is?
  8. I don't like Christmas, this year I am doing my very best fake it till you make it, I have almost convinced myself that it is going to be SO MUCH FUN.
I am tagging, all you poor souls doing NaBloPoMo that are struggling like me, or anyone else it is easier than you think once you get going. Thanks Marion for tagging me.

Friday, November 09, 2007

Are you sure?

My luck is changing, everything is coming up roses for a change. Knock wood.

Here is a fun story. I may have told it before, forgive me and my addled brain if you have read this before...

October 2004. We are in Hawaii. Everyone in the family got to do a couple of things that they really wanted to do. Mandy got to swim with dolphins and ride out in a boat into the ocean and see hundreds of dolphins frolicking in the surf. I got to go for sunset walks along the beach, boogie boarding, and an afternoon sunbathing on a lovely beach. All Jeff wanted was to hike to the top of Diamond Head Mountain.

On our way there, we got into a heated discussion about which way to go. Jeff had been there before, he thought he saw something on a sign, I was reading a map, he wouldn't listen to me. I wouldn't listen to him. It got ugly. For some reason my sweet easy going Jeff turns into a monster when he is behind the wheel. I just hate that. I feel like he is not trusting me. I think that having navigated our family through dozens of foreign countries would have taught him that I can indeed read a map. I would think that he would trust my map reading abilities, but he does not. Which seriously ticks me off. Every time he is driving and I am navigating he is second guessing my instructions. And he second guesses me very loudly and very rudely. You would think after all these years I would be used to it. I am not.

On this trip I got so mad, I insisted he turn the car around and take me back to the hotel. I refused to hike Diamond Head. And we never discussed it again.

Until...

Sunday night, we were watching the first episode of the new season of the Amazing Race. Jeff says to me, I really want to do the Amazing Race. I say to him, not with me your not, I would kill you. He says, "I haven't forgotten Diamond Head." I say, "nether have I."

For the sake of our marriage I don't think having cameras and an audience would help us to deal with our traveling issues. Anyone interested in being Jeff's partner. He runs marathons, does triathlons, has traveled all over the world, he is sweet as pie, easy going and fun. You just can't be sensitive when he asks you 27 times if you are sure you are supposed to turn here. Are you sure? I thought I saw a sign.

Men...

Thursday, November 08, 2007

one of those weeks

Poor Little Miss Lily is still sick. What a week. She really hates the diarrhea, she cries, and says, Mommy help me. She doesn't want to let it out. It is traumatic. We get it all done and I comfort her. Poor thing. She is quite upset that she is unable to will herself better.

I had Jeff go around the hospital, where he works, and ask all his doctor friends for advice. Like is there a medicine that I can give her? Or am I doing the right things? When is it time to take her to the doctor? Each doctor, each nurse, had completely different advice. Very frustrating. Some say no milk, some say yes milk. Some say give her medicine, some say no medicine use clotting foods. They give me a list of foods and drinks to give her and none of those things are things Lily eats.

I am proud of the fact that Lily is not dehydrated and she doesn't have a rash. The germy house is being kept hospital sterile. Mandy hasn't gotten sick.

My Lily is such a energetic little girl, it is hard to see her be quiet. She hardly ever wants to cuddle and this week, she just wants me to hold her. She isn't asking me any questions, no why is it Thursday? She isn't telling me no.

Yesterday evening, we woke up from our nap and were feeling pretty good. I wanted to see Lily laugh so badly. I started saying the bad words that we are not allowed to say, just cause I know she gets a kick out of saying bad words. We said: butt, shut up, and boobies. When Dad came home she told him to Shut his butt. It was so fun. I feel a little bad, but it was so nice to see her perk up and laugh.

Today she is the same, when is it supposed to get better? The "Mommy help me" thing is killing me. I missed the deadline for my homework. My living room light/ceiling fan has a short and goes off/on- off/on, the cable for the computer hasn't come even thought my card has been charged, it has just been one of those weeks.

Wednesday, November 07, 2007

Picasa

This posting everyday thing is rough. How y'all doing? Today I thought I would tell you about Picasa web albums.

If you have a blogger blog you are going to love this. The photos that you have uploaded to your new blogger blog are all stored over in a web album at this site. You can even go there and upload whole folders of photos all at once, instead of one photo at a time. Once uploaded you are able to post those photos to your blog with the click of a button, you can post them as a slide show, post them as an album or post them one at a time. It is very easy to use and convenient.

You are also able to download the program Picasa to your computer. This program organizes your photos and enables you do to some simple photo retouching and a whole lot more. Best of all it is all free. I personally do not like Picasa because I use photoshop and because I have a really slow computer. Picasa is always running in the background making my computer even slower. But, if you do not have photoshop and if you have a new computer, if your photos are all over the place and you need an easy way to organize you might want to download Picasa.

I guess I am telling you all this because I was so excited when I accidentally discovered I can upload a whole folder full of photos at once instead of one at a time. I know that many of you have blogger blogs and wanted to make sure you knew about this too. Of course I am probably the last one to know and you have all been doing this for years. Happy blogging.